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Friday, October 12, 2012

Happiness "How To": Get Your Priorities Straight

art by ~JenRoyce

Think about all the major ideas that you have about happiness, about success, about the meaning of your life.
Consider all the factors that are important to you, like money, success, children, nature, etc., some of which I explored in earlier posts: http://olgarythm.blogspot.com/2012/09/exploring-happiness-pre-requisites_30.html, http://olgarythm.blogspot.com/2012/09/exploring-happiness-pre-requisites.html, http://olgarythm.blogspot.com/2012/08/children-and-happiness.html.
Add or subtract to create a list of things you are ready to dedicate your life to. Weigh in whether you can be happy with less (see previous post "Adjust Your Expectations": http://olgarythm.blogspot.com/2012/10/happiness-how-to-adjust-your.html).

Then create a priority list for your life.

art by ~addicted-to-memories

Include only the most important goals you want to achieve in life, the end goals, for example, “being happy”, “enjoying the family”, “earning the living by doing what I like”, “dedicating more time to (fill in the blank)”. 
List the most important priorities first.

To get some perspective, let's consider what we do with the lifetime we are granted. Whatever we do in life: produce, eat, sleep, travel, work, quarrel, love, check emails, raise kids, exercise, and anything and everything else, we do it in exchange for our life. For example, during a day of work we produced 5 chairs, or contributed to a project for improving a banking system, or wrote an article, or baked cupcakes. We exchanged eight hours of our life for it. If you love what you produce, it may be worth it. If you do not really care and just wait for the day to be over, then you lose these hours of your life, forever.  

The priority list is a reminder of what is truly important for you. Review your life priority list every morning and decide what you are going to work on today.This way you will see how much time in your life you waste on non-essential things like checking updates on computer or bickering with close people over minor issues.  If you find yourself doing something opposite to your life-goals, such as getting angry at the world for something, getting stuck at a meaningless joyless job or spending hours in front of TV, then think again what is most important. 

Do not let non-essentials take away your time and energy from something more important, like enjoying your family, achieving something meaningful, being happy.

art by ~messofmemoriesxX

Remember that our time is finite. Would you like to endure the life or enjoy it? Waste it on something meaningless or celebrate it?

 It is probably impossible to fill each moment with deep meaning and spend all the time on working exclusively toward the big goals. As always, everything is good in moderation. But it is necessary to know what your priorities are, and live accordingly.

It is a life-long process. Do not get discouraged if you find yourself sidetracked. Work on improving your situation and continue to getting closer to your goals. And always feel satisfied and happy as you get closer to your goals, even if it is little by little.

art by ~cookiesnmilk

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